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By Dr. Brian Campbell, Copyright, 2013
_____ Told me I was bad or worthless.
_____ Made me feel that I wasn’t good enough.
_____ My parents never really accepted me.
_____ Made me feel that I didn’t belong in the family.
_____ Made me feel unwanted.
_____ Were never around very much when I was young.
_____ Were unreliable.
_____ Could not be trusted.
_____ Were too preoccupied with their own lives to pay much attention to me.
_____ Called me insulting names.
_____ Constantly criticized me.
_____ Beat me with belts, brushes, or other objects.
_____ Neglected me physically.
_____ Abused me physically.
_____ Neglected me emotionally.
_____ Got drunk or used drugs.
_____ Frightened me a lot.
_____ Made me feel ashamed of them.
_____ Made me feel ashamed of myself.
_____ Made fun of me or laughed at me in a cruel way.
_____ Were severely depressed or unavailable because of emotional, mental, or physical illness.
_____ Behavior was odd, unusual, or bizarre.
_____ Made me feel that I had to take care of them because of their problems.
_____ Tried to make me think they were perfect.
_____ Pressured me and expected too much of me.
_____ Rarely hugged or kissed me.
_____ Rarely told me they loved me.
_____ Blamed me for their problems.
_____ Were extremely negative and critical.
_____ Fought a lot.
_____ Sexually molested me.
_____ Were extremely controlling.
_____ Used money to control me.
_____ Used guilt to control me.
_____ Used threats to control me.
_____ Seemed to like my brother/sister better than me.
_____ Told me they wished I’d never been born.
_____ Told me I’d never make anything of myself.
_____ Were inconsistent when disciplining me.
_____ Lied a lot to me and others.
_____ Frequently broke the law.
_____ Cheated or took advantage of others.
_____ Were overly concerned about grades.
_____ Picked on me when I was young.
_____ Told me I was dumb or stupid.
_____ Did not provide a safe home for me.
_____ Were extremely conservative and legalistic.
_____ Were overprotective.
_____ Taught me that the world is a scary place.
_____ Often fought about money.
_____ Gave me the feeling that they didn’t have enough money to live on.
_____ Taught me not to trust anyone.
_____ Taught me to expect that the worst will happen.
_____ Did not like me being around them.
_____ Rarely said they were sorry.
_____ Rarely admitted mistakes.
_____ Made me keep family secrets.
_____ Tried to pretend everything was fine when it wasn’t.
_____ Isolated me and kept me away from other children.
_____ Were constantly comparing me to my brothers or sisters.
_____ Never laughed much.
_____ Died when I was young.
_____ Divorced when I was a child.
_____ Abandoned me when I was young.
_____ Were very concerned about how I looked.
_____ Couldn’t stand it if I disagreed with them.
_____ Spoiled me.
_____ Constantly bragged about me to others.
_____ Tended to let me do whatever I wanted.
_____ Often “gave in” to my demands.
_____ Worshiped the ground I walked on.
_____ Made me feel “special” or “unique.”
_____ Were very concerned about money and “status.”
_____ Were very concerned about how I looked and how I dressed.
_____ “Put me down” in front of others.
_____ Didn’t allow me to express my feelings.
_____ Tended to be dictators when it came to obedience.
_____ Didn’t care how I felt about things.
_____ Tended to make all of my decisions for me when I was growing up.
_____ Made it necessary for me take care of them when I was young.
_____ Tended to be very negative and pessimistic.
_____ Made me feel helpless to do anything for myself.